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Using I-Statements for Effective Conflict Resolution
One of the primary goals of effective conflict resolution is to de-escalate a situation that has potential to become tense and at an extreme, explosive. There are many ways to de-escalate conflict; however I-Statements are effective because they assist with expressing your feelings without placing blame and triggering defenses. One thing I love about teaching…
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The 5 Apology Languages
In a previous post, I shared that an important influence of our ability to build and maintain healthy relationships is our ability to give and receive love – specifically in ways that reflect our primary love language as identified by Dr. Gary Chapman. If there’s one thing about loving relationships that I think we all would…
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Using the ICED Method for Problem Solving & Decision Making
I find acronyms very helpful with remembering ordered steps and information. That said, I enjoy using the ICED model to educate my clients on effective problem solving and decision making skills. Identify the problem.Spell out what the problem is and why it is a problem. Create Alternatives.List the possible ways that a person could handle…
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The 5 Love Languages
A: “I don’t feel like you love me.” B: “What do you mean? I cook for you, I clean for you. You don’t have to lift a finger around here. How can you say that I don’t I love you.” Does this sound familiar? An important influence on our ability to build healthy relationships is…
Cultivative Counseling 